Solution-Focused Mindset: Changing Behaviors

I can come up with a million reasons why I don’t need to change my behaviors in order to be a better partner, improve my anger, or thrive in my business. Breaking bad habits and building new behaviors is a major struggle for me and not knowing where to start can be overwhelming.

A crowded mind without direction can lead to a lack of results. Not having a clear vision of the end result can create a world of excuses as to why you shouldn’t make positive changes in your life. 

I experienced results the moment I started to question the outcomes behind my behaviors. Instead of judging my behavior, I began to get curious about it. Curiosity is the fuel for the change process. When you can observe your behaviors with curiosity, it’s easier to see their benefits. Understanding the function of the behavior is key to changing it.

Use the following questions to help you organize your thoughts about your behaviors?

Required Changes:

  • What is required of you to change your behavior?

  • What new behaviors might help?

  • What old behaviors might you drop?

  • What beliefs should be changed?

Resources/Relationships:

  • What people do you think might support your new mindset/behavior?

  • What resources do you have?

  • What support do you need to get this done?

Strengths/Improvements:

  • What skills/knowledge/attributes do you have to help you make a change?

  • What skills/knowledge/attributes do you want to acquire to make a change?

Use the answers to find what is in the way of making positive changes and achieving your goals. If you apply this strategy and commit to the process, you will get results.

If you would like more information on how to apply this toward achieving your goals, navigate to the course section of this website to gain full access to the Solution-Focused Mindset Course.

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